Thanksgivings about families ..............right

if you already made plans then yes. Kick his ass seabass

I'm most certainly in a minority with my opinion about this subject. I think that it is virtually impossible for people to actually enjoy holidays like xmas and thanksgiving because they place so much importance on the damn day that the experience never lives up to the expectation. With that in mind, holidays usually live up to my abysmally low expectation. I don't know where I'm going with this, sorry. If I were you, I wouldn't be mad...but I never really saw what the big deal was anyways.

My dad and I officially boycotted thanksgiving. this will be our 3rd year in a row. Instead we cook Prime Rib, drink Chianti, and watch the entire Godfather Trilogy. X-mas is another bummer. My family was divorced when I was young, so I had to go to like 8 different places that day when all I wanted to do was stay home and play with my new toys. I'll never put my kids through that. People can come to my house. Humbug!

Hell yeah! Down with mandatory celebration! Holidays such as St. Pattys, 4th of July and Arbor Day are the best. No stupid rules. Nobody gets mad if you choose not to follow the normal routes of merriment.

I wonder if I was drunk on Arbor day this year...I sure as hell was the other two days.

All I was saying is that if plans were made and everything was set then yes be mad, it was mainly a "plan" thing not a holiday thing.

I think I boycotted Thanksgiving last year. That really means that I stayed at my moms and had a sandwich. Christmas was a huge disaster (my fault) and I definitely don't want that again. Gonna have to conjure up some holiday spirit this year. I guess you have to choose your battles...its pretty much impossible to beat christmas.

I like Lisa's idea until your married you spend it with your family. Then when you are you spend it together.

Getting back to the original post...I don't think getting mad will solve the problem. He's probably going to be even more turned off to your idea if you are mad at him. I know it totally sucks that he's breaking plans with you but from an objective viewpoint, getting mad probably won't help anything.

I think you have to have equality between the two families. Now that we are married, I'll be spending T-giving in florida with his family and Christmas with mine. Switches next year. No, I don't like it, but it's part of marriage, compromise.

I agree with Bec, I think that you don't have any REAL obligation until you are married. At that point, especially with families in different states, you spend one holiday with one family and the other with the other and then switch off years. That's the only fair way, and I'll be damned if my family gets the short end of the deal, they always have and they won't with me! But yes I would be pissed, not only because he's breaking plans, but regardless of how the day actually turns out I would give ANYTHING to spend Thanksgiving with ANY of my family this year, and since you've given that up for HIS family he should do the same for you....alright...I'm done

Dude man, guys are like that. You must understand the fact that they are immature and have no common sense..or reasoning lol. I just wrote in my blog about "the teacher speech" thats the title....i swear teachers are worse than men, they are like a whole nother race!